Relaxer Day!

Greetings guys! I am finally back in Oregon and able to do a extended post about my relaxer day on September 1, 2013! Here  goes:

– I based my scalp with Isoplus Castor oil grease and applied my mom’s mixture of coconut oil, castor oil and EVOO from my roots to tips in 6 sections.

– Kim applied the Mizani Butter Blends relaxer and I left it in for about 17 minutes. We were using the Mizani Butter Blends Relaxer System (read more about it here), so after she rinsed out the relaxer, she used the Perphecting Creme Normalizing Conditioner, which is designed to neutralize and strengthen hair immediately after the relaxer. I left that on my hair for about 5 minutes (I am not sure that this mid-step protein treatment was as good as using ApHogee’s 2 minute keratin treatment. I didn’t feel that my hair had the volume I get with using that stuff. I don’t plan on using the Mizani conditioner again as my mid-step protein). After that, she used the Balance Hair Bath Neutralizing and Chelating Shampoo. The thing I didn’t like about the shampoo was that it was not color-activated, which means it was not pink (or another color) in the presence of relaxer. For the initial wash, I left the shampoo on for 5 minutes so it could have more of a chance to neutralize. I had her wash my hair with this shampoo twice and followed up with the Isoplus neutralizer to make sure all traces of the relaxer were gone.

– I deep conditoned with Ion Extreme Moisture cream and Redken All-Soft using my hot turban and shower cap for about 20 minutes under the dryer.

– My leave-ins for my blow drying session were: Alterna Photo Defense, Alterna Blow Out Cream (which is running quite low) and Living Proof Prime Style Extender.

– After my hair was blow dried, I applied Alterna Bamboo Smooth Anti-Breakage Thermal Protectant spray. It has dimethicone as the fifth ingredient, but I loved this stuff! I didn’t experience any breakage after using it (maybe because I washed 2 days after using it). I also applied Living Proof Satin serum (silicone-free). Kim flat ironed my hair a few hours after it was blown out.

I noticed that my ends looked a bit rough and weren’t holding a curl well, so I clipped about 1/2 inch in some places. I CANNOT STAND RAGGEDY ENDS. DID YOU HEAR THAT? NO RAGGEDY ENDS! My hair looked so much better once I did!

I have to admit … while I look forward to getting my hair relaxed, it is also causes me great stress! We all hear about the woman who had her hair fall out due to a bad relaxer! I say a prayer before my relaxer and hope everything goes OK! Well, all-in-all, this relaxer day was a success!

Below are the final results.

Hair blown out – longest hairs are right at MBL!



Hair I lost during the relaxing process … not too bad



Hair flat ironed … the bra is at waist length


Me after a long night at this ratchet club where I just wanted to go home and eat pizza and sleep!! 



Pre Relaxer Babbling

Well I am in Utah waiting for my flight to Atlanta. I do believe I have the crappiest itinerary possible (even the Delta representative said so). I am on a red eye … I leave Utah in about two hours so I thought I would write a blog post instead!!

Well, tomorrow I get my relaxer! It has been about three months and three weeks since my relaxer in May and boy, can I tell! I have about two inches of new growth in the front of my hair and I am not sure about the back, as I did not do a final measurement. I am excited to see the progress that I made! I will probably be solidly past the 7 on my shirt in my longest layer, which will mean I am about two inches away from BSL in the longest layers! I am thinking about what if I am at the 8, which is BSB? Ooh!!! That would make me cry!!

Side note: I feel like a child on Christmas Eve tonight!!! I can’t wait to see what the hair fairy has left me this relaxer cycle!!

I did my relaxer prep yesterday (yeah, I know … A bit short notice). I clarified, did the Aphogee 2 minute Keratin treatment and left it on for about 30 minutes. I deep conditioned with my Alterna 10 and took a nap! I was so exhausted from my godchild’s visit!! I put in the normal leave-ins, wet bunned it and tied it up.

Well, I will definitely post pics when I get the relaxer done tomorrow night!! Wish me luck!!

Now its time for me to stretch out and take a nap!!


Today I am 4 weeks post relaxer and from week 1 it looked as if I have not had one. The curl is somewhat relaxed, but it has more of a texlaxed look, which is cute, but my hair is a bit thick and I am not feeling it at this point. You can still see about 2 inches of wave, then this straight-ish hair. Also, it is hard to differentiate between new growth and the texlax hair, as my natural hair is wavy. All of these textures are not good and can cause hair to be prone to breakage, so I am just going to have a corrective relaxer put in.

The stylist used a calcium-based relaxer, which is essentially no-lye. I think that a lye relaxer would be a better fit for me, as it is stronger and will work more quickly to penetrate my low porosity hair. I used to be deathly afraid of lye relaxers (but not knowing what the stylist put on my hair), but now that I understand my hair, the benefits of lye and how it will help my hair … I am game for it.

Read about the lye vs. no lye debate here. HINT: Any relaxer that needs activator is no-lye.

I am going to use the Mizani Butter Bleads on my hair when I do it in May. My old stylist Jeanne used Mizani relaxers and I always had great results. I also will be looking for a new stylist. I am just not feeling the salon I went to. Both times I have been moderately pleased, but not WOWED like I was when I was with Jeanne. I remember living in Hawaii and relaxers costing me $120 a pop, but I got the royal treatment (deep conditioners, protein, etc., trim). I remember complaining about how expensive they were, but I would GLADLY pay it now, as my hair always looked good when I left there. And it was always so healthy looking!

I am going to start looking for a new stylist for my next relaxer in August. I think I will finally try Ulta in Beaverton or a JCPenney Salon, as they were referred to me from the Mizani website. The first time at the salon I went to in Portland, the guy was OK, but he used tools that I thought were a bit inferior to be using in an “upscale” salon. His blow dryer looked a bit worse than mine. The second time, the lady did a good job, but as much as she flexed her hair knowledge, she did not offer me a deep conditioner or anything after the relaxer and gave me just a wash and set. The next day, my hair felt so dry that I had to redo it. I was livid (see post “Guess where I am?“)

Also, I have decided to limit my relaxer stretches to 3 months. By that time, I will have 1.5-2 inches of new growth. It really is no need for me to stretch any longer.

To stretch or not to stretch …

I am a 12 weeker. That means I get relaxers about every three months. It has been years since I have gotten relaxers any sooner than that. I have friends who go every 6 to 8 weeks. If I did that, I don’t believe I would have a piece of hair left to relax the next go round.

My last relaxer was in November 2011, so I am due one in the next few weeks, but since reading other blogs and learning their stretch techniques, I am confident that I could wait until March or so. Since I’m abandoning the blow out method, using rollers will help me stretch that new growth out. It was also be awesome if I could get relaxers three times a year because it will save me some much needed cash!!! I am not confident enough to self-relax this early into the game.

Here is the new growth that I have …



It’s almost an inch. Good, as it made up for the inch I lost last month due to dead ends. 😦