Relaxer Day!!!!!!!

I must admit, this relaxer day came fast! I don’t know if it was the ease of this stretch (I was 14 weeks post and normally I relax around 12-13 weeks) or the fact that the fall has flown by, but before I knew it, it was time to relax! Due to the fact that I need to cook and get ready for a week-long work trip, I will make this quick and dirty!

This is the first time Kim has not done my relaxer since May 2012! I was going to self-relax, but at the last minute I decided to ask my friend Tracie to help me out! I am still a bit chicken about applying such a chemical to my hair!

So here’s how Relaxer Day went:

Friday night, I applied vitamin E oil and Softee coconut grease to my ends and pigtailed my hair in six sections so that my hair wouldn’t be tangled. I did a good job keeping my hair detangled this week so I wouldn’t have any problems come relaxer day! I put on my satin bonnet and went to sleep. I also laid out all the things that I would need for my relaxer.

I did get a good chuckle out of the Softee coconut ingredients list! They have the nerve to tell people that this stuff is moisturizing? Not a drop of water insight! I will say that the smell took me back to childhood! I loved the smell of coconut grease!


Saturday morning, I applied the Softee coconut grease to my scalp and edges. Tracie said I laid it on so thick that there were globs of it in my hair! Better to be safe than sorry!

Tracie then applied my Mizani Butter Blends relaxer. It took about 25 minutes from first application until I rinsed. The good thing was, I was not burning at all (must have been that coconut grease!!!) I rinsed out the relaxer and then applied my ApHogee 2 minute Keratin Treatment. I put on a warm turban, topped off with a conditioning cap and sat under the dryer for 17 minutes. I rinsed that out, neutralized with shampoo, then applied my Silk Elements Megasilk deep conditioner for about 20 minutes, then final rinsed with Roux.

I know I said I was not going to use direct heat again, but I just didn’t have the energy to roll my hair and sit under a dryer for 2 hours. Besides, we had Christmas photos to take that afternoon and time was already flying by. I had Tracie flat iron it and put in some curls, which I promptly noticed needed dusting, as my ends were looked a little raggedy. With that said, I do not have a length check photo. I plan on roller setting next week so I will try and get one then!

All-in-all, I believe my relaxer took really well and I am happy with the results! It was definitely a bit weird getting my hair relaxed at home (which hasn’t happened in ages)!

In lieu of hair photos, here are some of our holiday photos!

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Mizani Butter Blends Relaxer System

Greetings! I wanted to share the fact that on my next relaxer, I will get to use the Mizani Butter Blends system. My friend Tracie recently went back to relaxing her hair after being natural for 2 years and she ordered the shampoo and conditioner and was kind enough to bring me a sample of each of the products (and graciously allowed me to keep these handy containers as well!)

This is the same system that Jeanne (my stylist from Hawaii) would use. As soon as I opened the conditioner, the smell took me back! It’s a really good smelling product that lingers around in the hair for a few days!

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So here are the products I will use (NOTE: there are other products in the system, but IMO, these are two of the most important ones):

Balance Hair Bath Neutralizing and Chelating Shampoo

Product Description: The Hair Bath Neutralizing & Chelating Shampoo is such the little helper when it comes to relaxing hair. Not only is it formulated with honey for enhanced moisturization, it’s been created with a pink color indicator to signal remaining relaxer residue. This is the final process in Phase 2 because it completes the neutralization process and removes mineral deposits for soft, healthy hair.. NEUTRALIZING AND CHELATING SHAMPOO A nourishing neutralizing and chelating shampoo created with a pink color indicator to signal remaining relaxer residue. Formulated with moisturizing honey combined with a protein conditioner for enhanced moisturization, it restores natural pH balance and removes mineral deposits for soft, healthy hair. (Source:


Perphecting Créme Normalizing Conditioner

Product Description: A light cream conditioner designed to re-establish hair’s natural pH level formulated with an ultra moisturizing blend of shea butter and honey with strengthening ceramide. Moisturizing agents provide excellent detangling benefits to minimize breakage from wet combing and styling. Patented ceramide penetrates the cuticle to strengthen for optimal conditioning. (Source:

Ingredients: Aqua/Water, Paraffinum Liquidum/Mineral Oil, Polyquaternium-37, Dicetyldimonium Chloride, Propylene Glycol Dicaprylate/Dicaprate, PEG-100 Stearate, Stearamidopropyl Dimethylamine, Glyceryl Stearate, Phenoxyethanol, Citric Acid, Propylene Glycol, Parfum/Fragrance, PPG-1 Trideceth-6, Methylparaben, Panthenol, Butyrospermum Parkii/Shea Butter, Hydroxypropyltrimonium Honey, Pentasodium Penteate, Ethylparaben, Propylparaben, Isobutylparaben, Butylparaben, 2-Oleamido-1, 3-Octadecanediol.

So, this is how I will use this system, which is as directed:

1. Base scalp with Vaseline or whatever petroleum product is around; protect ends with EVOO and cheap conditioner

2. Relax with Mizani Butter Blends relaxer, rinse

3. Apply Perphecting Créme Normalizing Conditioner and let it sit for about 5 minutes, rinse

4. Wash with Balance Hair Bath Neutralizing and Chelating Shampoo until all traces of pink are gone

5. Deep condition with MegaSilk and Alterna Caviar under heated cap for 15 minutes

6. Apply leave-ins (TBD) and style as desired.

You may have noticed that I bolded the mineral oil ingredient that is in the conditioner. At first, I was a bit worried about it, but since it will pretty much be stripped away with the chelating shampoo, it’s no cause for worry. Also, it appears that I will be getting adequate strength and protein from the conditioner and shampoo, so I consider that my mid-step protein treatment. I will follow up with a good moisturizing deep conditioner so that my hair is not left too rigid and prone to breakage.

I’m pretty excited about seeing how my hair reacts to the entire system! I will know in less than 14 days!!!

Until next time …

Post Relaxer Update!

Well, I got my relaxer last Tuesday, but since I have been on the go since I arrived in NC … I have not even had a chance to take a pic nor post about it. I leave tomorrow morning, so I thought that I would burn the midnight oil (literally, its after midnight here) and write about it.

As I noted last post, I washed my hair Sunday and got a relaxer Tuesday … that was a bad idea. My head burned so bad, I had Kim wash the relaxer out early! It’s not so much a bad thing, as my hair was processed enough anyways … but now I have some scabs. Ah, the joy of relaxing hair.

Before putting the relaxer on, I covered my processed hair with cheapie conditioner to prevent double processing. After the relaxer, Kim washed with neutralizing shampoo, followed up by my Alterna Caviar shampoo. I deep conditioned for 15 minutes with Alterna Caviar conditioner and Alterna 10 Hair Masque followed by a final cold rinse with Roux Porosity Control. The leave-ins were my typical leave-ins. Kim blow dried and flat ironed my hair and it looked amazing!!!!!! I was so impressed! I can tell a radical length change from my relaxer in May to the one in August.

Well, my joy was short lived. I am not sure if my hair was not dry enough or the NC humidity was too strong, but by the next day, my hair was a swollen mess. I had to go to my friend Scott’s house in Morrisville to co-wash and blow dry it so that I could get it flat ironed at the Walmart salon! I had some important outings and I had to look fly. I apologized to my hair for the heat overload, but made sure that it had plenty of heat protectant on it. This style has lasted all week. I wonder if it is because I used the cool shot on the blow dryer to “set” the style.

I made it past the 7 in the longest layers … which was my goal for this relaxer cycle. I will post pics when I get home tomorrow evening! I am really proud of my hair. I have gotten a lot of compliments on its health and how long it is getting!!! I am closing in on BSB. That shoulder blade is getting close to being covered!! I think that I will be BSB by October. I don’t think that I will be BSL by my next relaxer in late November … but if I can get 1.5 inches, then I will be darn close!

Here’s to healthy hair growth and length retention!

Sorry for the picture without the length check shirt on. I will take one soon!

Pre Relaxer Babbling

Well I am in Utah waiting for my flight to Atlanta. I do believe I have the crappiest itinerary possible (even the Delta representative said so). I am on a red eye … I leave Utah in about two hours so I thought I would write a blog post instead!!

Well, tomorrow I get my relaxer! It has been about three months and three weeks since my relaxer in May and boy, can I tell! I have about two inches of new growth in the front of my hair and I am not sure about the back, as I did not do a final measurement. I am excited to see the progress that I made! I will probably be solidly past the 7 on my shirt in my longest layer, which will mean I am about two inches away from BSL in the longest layers! I am thinking about what if I am at the 8, which is BSB? Ooh!!! That would make me cry!!

Side note: I feel like a child on Christmas Eve tonight!!! I can’t wait to see what the hair fairy has left me this relaxer cycle!!

I did my relaxer prep yesterday (yeah, I know … A bit short notice). I clarified, did the Aphogee 2 minute Keratin treatment and left it on for about 30 minutes. I deep conditioned with my Alterna 10 and took a nap! I was so exhausted from my godchild’s visit!! I put in the normal leave-ins, wet bunned it and tied it up.

Well, I will definitely post pics when I get the relaxer done tomorrow night!! Wish me luck!!

Now its time for me to stretch out and take a nap!!

Corrective Relaxer Results – Texlax fail.

Greetings! It has been a while since I have written a blogpost! I have been so busy … I had a conference in DC, then I traveled home to NC for about 6 days to visit with friends and family!

I got a corrective relaxer late Wednesday night to fix some of the underprocessed areas from my relaxer in March. My lovely friend Kim did it for me. I used the Mizani Butter Blends and I love it!! Here’s what we did:

1. Based hair with Vaseline

2. Put leave-in conditioner on my ends to protect them from relaxer run-off

3. Put in relaxer … left for about 10 – 15 minutes. It burned, but not too badly. I have a high pain tolerance.

4. Washed out with neutralizer … did this several times! Then washed with Alterna moisturizing shampoo.

5. Placed Alterna 10 on my hair for deep conditioning treatment. Covered with wet rag and conditioning cap. Left on for 10 minutes.

6. Applied leave-ins.

7. Blow dried hair.

8. Flat ironed hair.

9. Admired hair (mostly I did).

The end result was amazing! I thought I was fgrogran, swinging my hair, sans about 9 inches!! Hahahah! But nevertheless, I can tell it has grown! I will definitely be full APL by the end of the summer. Kim measured my hair and I have about 3 inches until BSB, which is about 5 – 6 months away.

My next relaxer will be in August. I am going back to the 12 week stretch schedule. The 16 week stretch was nice, but it wasn’t for me. I also do not like the texlax look. I like my hair straighter. Also, it was hard for me to tell where my new growth ended and my texlaxed hair began.

Here’s some of the pictures!! My goal for my next relaxer is to be near the 7 on my length check shirt!



Today I am 4 weeks post relaxer and from week 1 it looked as if I have not had one. The curl is somewhat relaxed, but it has more of a texlaxed look, which is cute, but my hair is a bit thick and I am not feeling it at this point. You can still see about 2 inches of wave, then this straight-ish hair. Also, it is hard to differentiate between new growth and the texlax hair, as my natural hair is wavy. All of these textures are not good and can cause hair to be prone to breakage, so I am just going to have a corrective relaxer put in.

The stylist used a calcium-based relaxer, which is essentially no-lye. I think that a lye relaxer would be a better fit for me, as it is stronger and will work more quickly to penetrate my low porosity hair. I used to be deathly afraid of lye relaxers (but not knowing what the stylist put on my hair), but now that I understand my hair, the benefits of lye and how it will help my hair … I am game for it.

Read about the lye vs. no lye debate here. HINT: Any relaxer that needs activator is no-lye.

I am going to use the Mizani Butter Bleads on my hair when I do it in May. My old stylist Jeanne used Mizani relaxers and I always had great results. I also will be looking for a new stylist. I am just not feeling the salon I went to. Both times I have been moderately pleased, but not WOWED like I was when I was with Jeanne. I remember living in Hawaii and relaxers costing me $120 a pop, but I got the royal treatment (deep conditioners, protein, etc., trim). I remember complaining about how expensive they were, but I would GLADLY pay it now, as my hair always looked good when I left there. And it was always so healthy looking!

I am going to start looking for a new stylist for my next relaxer in August. I think I will finally try Ulta in Beaverton or a JCPenney Salon, as they were referred to me from the Mizani website. The first time at the salon I went to in Portland, the guy was OK, but he used tools that I thought were a bit inferior to be using in an “upscale” salon. His blow dryer looked a bit worse than mine. The second time, the lady did a good job, but as much as she flexed her hair knowledge, she did not offer me a deep conditioner or anything after the relaxer and gave me just a wash and set. The next day, my hair felt so dry that I had to redo it. I was livid (see post “Guess where I am?“)

Also, I have decided to limit my relaxer stretches to 3 months. By that time, I will have 1.5-2 inches of new growth. It really is no need for me to stretch any longer.