Wash Day!!

Greetings. I can barely muster to include my normal exclamation point. This has been some week! I started this new workout routine called Focus T25 with Shaun T and I am sore from head to toe! I could barely get out of bed yesterday morning as well as today! I had a horrible headache yesterday, probably a reaction to my body feeling like it had tetanus … it was just all locked up and stiff! I wanted to wash my hair yesterday once Nathan and I returned from the mall, but I was just to achy and tired so I figured I would do it on Sunday.

Physical wise, my week has been pretty tough. Hair wise, it has been pretty good! I am living for the Carol’s Daughter Minoi Oil Sacred Strengthening Serum! I have noticed a significant decrease in broken hairs over this week. Most days, I had no breakage at all! I was able to wear my hair out on Monday and in a loose ponytail on Tuesday, but by Wednesday, it was bun time due to the workouts! I also used my Kenra Platinum Dry Shampoo one day to remove excess oil and sweat until I was able to wash again.

So here’s how Wash Day went this week:

Pre-Poo: Coconut oil, manuka honey, cheapie conditioner, hemp seed oil

Shampoo: Alterna Life Solutions Clarifying, GVP Tea Tree, Alterna Caviar Volume

In-Shower Conditioner: Redken All-Soft (I used the last of my liter that I have had for two years!!) and Ion Extreme Moisture Cream

Deep Conditioner: KeraPro Restorative Treatment for Dry to Very Dry Hair for 1 hour with heat, final rinse with Roux for 90 seconds

Leave-Ins: Alterna Caviar Photo Age Defense, Alterna Texture, Roux 619 Extreme Moisture, Carol’s Daughter Minoi Oil Sacred Strengthening Serum


I rolled majority of my hair using the black rollers. I took me about 40 minutes to roll. I am trying to cut my time under the dryer as much as possible! Also, I am playing around with a new recipe when I set my hair. Instead of using just water to wet my hair before each roll, I’m using water, a few drops of essential oil (choice doesn’t matter) and a few squeezes of vegetable glycerine, all mixed in my spray bottle! So far, it is good!!!



I was not fortunate this week to be dry in an hour and 15 minutes. It took me a little over 90 minutes under the dryer!! Ughhhhhhh!!!!! If there is one thing I do miss about having shorter hair, it is not having to sit under the dryer for so long. #longhairproblems

The thing about the black rollers is that they leave my curls a bit flacid, if you will. I don’t get the really cute spirally curls like I do when I set on purple and gray rollers. The hair has an almost flat-ironed look. I didn’t take any pictures today, but I promise I will next week! I combed my hair into a wrap, applied a few drops of Minoi Oil and sat under the dryer for about 10 minutes, then combed out for the final evaluation. I noticed that I have had a lot of shedding this Wash Day, which is alright, considering I lost barely any hair at all during the week. I may do a black tea rinse next week and see if that helps!

All-in-all, it was a good Wash Day (it was kinda long, though) and I was pleased with the results. I admired my hair a bit, then rolled it back up in a modified roller set to refresh the curls. The one thing I don’t like with the black rollers is that my curls are easily combed away due to the lack of curl, so I find it very helpful to re-roll my hair dry to get back that volume and bend at the ends.

Here’s the amount of hair that I lost …

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I rarely post things about my personal life, as I am a pretty private individual (you won’t find me on too many social media sites), but I just thought I would share a few things that I am “living for” at the moment …

1. Eastbound and Down Season 4 returns to HBO TONIGHT!!!!!!!!!!

2. Boardwalk Empire

3. Carol’s Daughter Minoi Oil Sacred Strengthening Serum

4. Shaun T’s Focus T25 workout (despite it being extremely hard)

5. South Park is back!!!!

6. Big Bang Theory is back too!!!

7. I found my Alterna Caviar Texture Cream!!

Well, it’s about 7pm and I need to get ready for the workweek before Boardwalk Empire and Eastbound and Down comes on!!! Until next time, friends! 🙂

Ah, my main dude, Kenny “F’in” Powers!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hair Updates and Rumblings: NC Edition

In order not to make my Relaxer Day post too long, I thought I would break these 2 posts up and give some hair updates and observations during my time in NC.

– As you may have read, the week and a half leading up to my relaxer had me shedding something crazy! I literally thought I was going to be bald (hahah!) I never attribute excessive shedding as a cause of me needing to end a relaxer stretch, but since I have relaxed my hair a week ago, the shedding has been soooooooo minimal. Like a few strands a day, even with combing. I often view relaxers as kind of a Darwin-esque mechanism. Hairs (and ends) that are weak just won’t last during a relaxer processing, so I am left with strong, robust strands, if you will! I am not sure if my new birth control kicked in some hormones or whether a change in scenery was what my hair needed, but my shedding is under control – for now!

– I also experienced some breakage near the end of my relaxer stretch. I don’t think I will just blow dry my hair and not flat iron it again. I plan on roller setting my next pre-relaxer day.

– I am going to have to learn my hair all over again when I move back to NC. It is soooooooooooo humid! My hair just didn’t stand a chance! I don’t think all the products in the world will stand up to the humidity in the South! I will say this, I think the Living Proof products I am using helped (see below for full list of products). Instead of my hair poofing up all wild-like and leaving me with wet, swollen, and limp hair, the curls just fell and I was able to still wear it down (not sleek … pulled back in a headband) or in a ponytail. I am so glad that I did not pay $45 for a roller set only to have the NC rain and heat come and whisk my curls (and coins) away!

– I don’t like straight hair. It’s fun to have a sleek, flat ironed look sometimes, but to me, it’s gets old pretty fast and the reasons should be pretty obvious to someone on a HHJ! For one, there is too much upkeep involved to maintain it. You have to wrap (or cross-wrap), take it down, make sure there aren’t any bobby pin or clip indentations and if there are, apply heat to remove them (if you so choose). Also, if it needs to be “bumped,” you have to apply more direct heat. Then you have to watch what you’re wearing, where you go, what the forecast is looking like, etc.! It would be remiss of me not to mention that straight hair displays all your flaws. If your hemline is chewed up, it will show. If you ends are like Rice Krispies (snap, crackle and pop!), it will show. You can hide easily hide subtle flaws with roller sets and other protective styles. Also, I like the look of voluminous curls or waves that I get from roller setting or doing the faux air-drying method.

– I did a roller set two days after I got my relaxer on Labor Day. I was heading to Raleigh to meet with some friends and had to be fly! I washed my hair with some sulfate shampoo Kim had on hand to remove silicones from my flat ironing session and followed up with my Alterna Caviar Volume poo. I did a 20 minute deep-conditioning session with Ion Extreme Moisture conditioner and followed up with my Roux for 1 minute. My leave-ins were: Living Proof Prime Style Extender, Living Proof frizz Nourishing cream and Alterna Texture cream. Kim kept insisting that I use a setting lotion or foam. I said nope … water only! She rolled me up, I placed on my roller net and I went back to my mom’s house, where I had a dryer like mine waiting for me! I can’t do tabletops if I can avoid it! I sat under the dryer for about 1 hr and was so tired I couldn’t keep my eyes open so I decided to sleep in the rollers for the first time to let it air dry over night! It was a bit uncomfortable, but I was so tired, it really didn’t matter. I misted my hair the next morning and sat back under the dryer for about 30 minutes for a final setting. The curls were beautiful! I was very tempted not to blow them out in preparation for my hair to be wrapped, but I did! In hindsight, I should have left them alone and maybe the frizz wouldn’t have been so bad!

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By the time I got to Raleigh in the late afternoon on Tuesday, my hair had had it. It was humid, my ends were screaming for a dusting (which I did when I got to the hotel). To add insult to injury, after dinner at Second Empire (yum), we went to Solas, which is a rooftop bar! By the end of the night, my hair was in a bun! The next day, I combed and detangled it, smoothed with some Vitamin E oil and wore it down with a headband.

– People touching my hair makes me very nervous. I think the longer my hair gets, the more protective of it I become. At the ratchet club we went to Saturday, I sat still in a booth and made sure people couldn’t get behind me. I was in fear that someone would try and pull or cut my hair! In my hometown, there were a few people who checked for tracks. One hairdresser told me, “I would just cut all that hair off if you came to me!” SEE? That’s why I won’t allow black people to do my trims! That almost turned my blood cold.

– At Sephora in Crabtree Valley Mall, this beautiful lady with beautiful natural hair gave me some tips on how to deal with long hair and frizz! I asked her if she thought the Living Proof frizz shampoo and conditioner was good, and she said she didn’t recommend it, as even without sulfates, she found the shampoo stripping and the conditioner didn’t work well. She said she uses the Alterna Caviar shampoo and conditioner and Living Proof leave-ins (frizz Nourishing cream, Prime Style Extender and Satin Serum). I knew when she said that, she was a HHJ sister, as she even mentioned the word “journey.” She admired the thickness of my hair and ends, even though the curls had been long gone! She told me that I missed one spot when dusting (which was the very back!), but other than that, my ends looked good! She told me she is preparing for a trim in December to remove some of her ends, but she wants to be MBL when she does it. I talked with her a good 10 minutes, sharing hair tips  (I recommended she try the Hercules Sagemann rake comb) and would’ve stayed longer had my friend not come in to retrieve me! One story she told me stuck out and validated my choice not to go to this salon I was thinking about trying. She recalled a time she was at a salon and she was asking the stylist what products she was using, instructing her on how to detangle her hair, etc. and the stylist told her “Oh … you’re one of THOSE!” HA!!!!!!!!!!! I know there are great stylists out there, but I don’t want to go bald on my quest to find one! That’s why I will stick with me or my friend doing it for now!

P.S. As soon as I got to some shears, I had my friend helped me get that last piece of rough hair!

– I went to see my dad and thanked him for his genes when it came to hair (he gets no love for my beady, non-descript eyes, but some love for my thick eyebrows). He said, “you’re welcome!” 🙂

– My ponytails are on point! I was swanging my long ponytail the last two days I was in town! I can’t wait until I see my WL ponytail!

– I don’t think I am going for full waist length. It would be just too much to deal with, IMHO. I actually like soft, subtle layers, so maybe when my length in the front hits BSL (in the year 2025), I will be happy!

– No tea, no shade, but so many people are not getting the HHJ memo in NC! These thin wraps that have been flat ironed into oblivion, lacefront wigs, double-processed hair, etc. Kim wanted to know why I sat with conditioner every time I got my hair washed and I told her I never miss a weekly deep conditioning – EVER! I will mind my own damn scalp, but I’m just saying …

Well, I think that’s all the hair updates and observations I have for now! 🙂

Wash Day and It Takes Me FOREVER to Roll, Roll, Pull!

Greetings this lovely Saturday! Today I decided to roll my hair, as I was excited to try out what I learned on the Healthy Textures Rollersetting tutorial.

Here’s how it went:

Pre-Poo: Coconut Oil and Hemp Seed Oil for 1 hr (30 with heat)

Shampoo: Alterna Life Solutions Clarifying, Alterna Caviar Moisture

In-Shower Conditioning: Redken All Soft

Deep Conditioning: KeraPro Restorative Treatment (I haven’t used it in a while and I think I could use a shot of protein) for 45 minutes with heat

Final Rinse: Roux Porosity Control for 2 minutes

Leave-Ins: Alterna Caviar Photo Defense, Alterna Bamboo Volume Plumping Strand Expand, GVP Smoothing Serum (NOTE: In the HT Rollersetting video, Gennifer said that using too many products can make it take longer for your hair to dry, especially moisturizers which work to keep moisture within the hair, so I decided to only use 2 leave-ins and a serum. Also, since I wanted my hair to be softer, I did not setting my hair with diluted Lotta Body … I just used plain ole water!)

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Now for the rolling part … OMG! It took me almost an hour and 20 minutes to roll my hair today (compared to my normal 45 minutes)! The mohawk part started off OK. I just mumbled “roll, roll, pull!” for every section of hair I rolled, but it did not take me any longer than normal! I was able to clip the roller near the back of the roller, as Gennifer instructed. Then I got to the sides. 😦  In the video, Gennifer starts from the back and works her way forward. I thought that since I got the side part of rolling my hair down pat, I would just start at the front and go backwards. It was all good on my left side until I got to the back … there was no space for rollers and pieces of hair were “orphaned” without a roller to call their own! I had to take all of the rollers out and start all over again! As for the right side, my hair did not want to be clipped correctly, so I had to start over there as well! Today’s roller set was like a hard puzzle and I am not going to lie, there were times when I wanted to stop … but I kept on! Finally, I got to the last two rollers and they had mercy on me because they easily fell into place. Lord knows how much hair I lost having to continually comb my hair to put on the roller … thankfully I have enough to spare!

Despite the longer rollerset, I can totally tell my hair is tighter on the roller because: 1) I have a headache and 2) my roots appear much more straight on the roller.

Here are some pics with the rollers securely in my head and hair that came out while rollersetting:photo 1 photo 1 (18) photo 2 (16)

So it takes me about 90 minutes to dry (*insert crying face*). When I finally get to take the rollers out, I notice my hair is sooooooooo much softer and easier to manipulate than when I used setting lotion. I then proceed to use the round brush to blow out my roots. It’s definitely weird doing this after a roller set! After blowing out my hair, I began to wrap my hair. I used a small amount of creamy moisturizer like Gennifer (I used Amla Legends 1001 Oils Night Wrap) and began to wrap. My saran wrap roll is acting up, so I decided to go without. I wrapped my hair (careful not to use any pins or clips to hold it up, as I did not want any grooves in my hair) using my Hercules Sagemann widetooth comb and boar bristle brush. I applied a bit of Alterna Dry Kendi Oil Mist on the completed wrap and tied my hair up using my net and plunked back up under the dryer for 10 minutes (I used the cool setting to “set” the style and lock in moisture). I unwrapped my hair …  and here are the results:

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The long work was totally worth it … these pictures do not do the style any justice! I am just sooooooooooo pleased! I could not stay out the mirror (I asked God to forgive me for my vanity … but He has seen my other rollersets so I am sure he gave me a pass!) I cannot say enough about Gennifer’s video for helping me to do my best rollerset ever! I really do not feel the need to go and get my hair flat ironed by anyone … as Gennifer’s video helped unlock the technique I have wanted to figure out for 18 months! My hair has the sleek look, yet has so much body!

Here are a few lessons that I learned during this roller set:

– Less product is more! My hair felt so much softer without the Lotta Body … I think I will rotate it out of my regimen for a while.

– Manipulating hair once in a while is a great thing! I used to fear doing anything to my hair after I took the rollers out for fear of ripping my hair out! I was a little anxious about using the round brush to blow my roots out and wrapping my hair, but it was painless …

– Patience pays off! I wanted to give up … but in the end, the results paid off! Like Jimmy V said: “Don’t ever give up!”

I anticipate I will roller set once or twice before my relaxer in 5 weeks!


A breath of fresh air on roller setting ….

Greetings guys! Hope your week is going well! Friday is just around the corner! Hooray! I just finished watching “Healthy Textures’ Guide to Rollersetting” (available through Amazon Instant Video for $19.99). I remember reading about this lady, named Gennifer, in the prologue … Continue reading

Wash Day and first roller set since June!

For the last three months, Wash Day was quite quick. I washed, DC’ed, applied leave ins and went on my merry way … But now I am back to roller setting. I miss being able to wear my hair out sometimes! When I air dry it, it goes straight into a bun and stays there until next wash day.

I prepooed overnight with Alberto V-05 strawberries and cream. I felt that I needed a protein boost and this stuff delivers just enough. I co-washed since I chelated on Thursday (NC has minerals in their water and so I wanted this stuff out of my hair!!) I co-washed with Alterna Caviar and Redken All Soft.

Next I DC’ed with my Alterna 10 hair masque for 45 minutes. I took pictures of how I do my “steam” treatments. Sorry I covered my face, but it was looking quite splotchy! Hahaha!

1. Apply DC of your choice

2. Wrap hair in warm microfiber towel or turban. I wet mine with hot water.


3. Place shower cap or plastic bag over your head.


4. Sit under dryer for desired amount of time.


After that, I rinsed out DC, applied Roux Porosity Control for 1 minute and rinsed with cool water.

Now on to the roller setting. I wanted to try mesh rollers just to see how they worked, but I wasn’t feeling how they were laying when I pinned them with the metal clips (I sure as heck wasn’t using any of those straight pins just to stab myself in the head!), so I just used the magnetic rollers.

I did the mohawk method using Alterna Photo Defense, Alterna Caviar Texture, Roux 619, Lotta Body setting lotion and a new product … Aphogee Keratin and Green Tea Reconstructurizer ($5.50 at Sally’s). It has some protein in it and I am feeling like I need some as a leave in as well!! It took me about 50 minutes to roll, but it was all good, as I had Pandora on 2 Chainz radio and it kept me entertained! I took my time and made sure I methodically placed the rollers in 1 inch spaces. I got frustrated at one point, but I kept going!! Here are the rollers in place.



I took about 90 minutes to dry. The top part dried quickly, but I had to go back under the dryer for the back. My dryer is OK, but it does not have a lot of vents to hit the back. I think I will buy me a new dryer when I reach BSL as a reward present!!

I took out the rollers and wow!!! The curls were absolutely gorgeous!!! I was quite pleased with my work!!




I put some moisturizer and oil on it, brushed the hair in a wrap for the final part. I tied up the front and left the top out. I got in the shower to let the style set. I was unsure of how that would turn out!! But all in all, it turned out great!! Here is the final result.




I love the bouncy curls and I love how my hair hits APL with the roller set. As you know, roller setting doesn’t necessarily let you see your true length, but that’s all good because I want body and volume!

Well, despite me having a good Wash Day, I did have some concerns. I am experiencing more shedding than normal. I know this happens in early fall, but ugh!! I am a nervous wreck every time I lose one hair!! I also dusted my ends on Friday because I felt they needed it. I am OK dusting my ends once every 6 or so weeks. Also, I am debating on doing a protein treatment next Wash Day. For some reason, I get hella nervous that the relaxer will take my hair out. I am not experiencing any significant breakage, but everything I do to my hair has me paranoid about whether it will fall out or not. Sigh….

Well, here’s to healthy hair growth (and retention!!)